Mandy was a Transformational Client.
I worked with Mandy over a period of a few months – she had about 6 or 8 sessions over that time. I reconnected with her a couple of years after we had finished working together and was delighted at her transformation. I asked if I could interview her about her remarkable journey, so we met in a local coffee shop to talk.
This is her story in her own words …
Mandy’s Story
I actually came for a massage because I had had back problems for years and was referred to you by a friend.
The room was so calm when I came in and smelled lovely. I felt that the massage was my time – it was time for me. I didn’t know what to expect but I thought you were going to work miracles to be honest. I felt like you were a counsellor, that there was space for me to think and speak.
I had so much going on in my head but I was just dealing with it. For years I hadn’t I really known where I was, or who I was. I felt very safe and relaxed at the session and it all came tumbling out.
From leaving your house, I did feel totally different, like a release. I can still feel how I felt when I got off the couch. I just felt so much stronger, like this happiness. My shoulders were down and my head was up. Wow, I was shocked!
My decision was I don’t want to feel sad any more. I made my decision there and then – I was going to leave my husband. I’ve not had any back problems at all since, nothing. It’s so strange.
I didn’t think I would ever be right on anything. I don’t care what I say now. He has no control over me. I should have been like that before but I couldn’t, I had to leave my relationship in order to be how I really am.
It’s taken a long time but I’m learning that I can do things myself, I’ve had to learn that. After I left him everything come to a head but since then I’ve realised I’ve got to make the most of life now. I feel completely different to where I was before. I can’t explain it to you. It felt like something was released – I was taller, with my head up
I’m a hell of a lot stronger now. I’ve had to learn to do things, like with people. If people didn’t like something before, it was a huge issue but now the kids and me are living our own lives you know? I still think about what other people think but it’s much easier. I’m me doing my own things.
I feel as though I am in a better place now. I’ve now learnt to be me and people can either accept that or …
I’m discovering who I really am – I’m enjoying life. I think I’m actually beginning to like myself. I’m beginning to see me, who I am. I got a tattoo last week and a piercing this week There’s no one else to push me over decisions – I make my own decisions. That sounds scary … hence the tattoo and the piercing. Now I make the decisions! Wow, scary!
He would say I’m stronger and making decisions now. I’m more of my own person now.
I like to close the door and be on my own. I’m not into peoples’ lives. I have my own space which I like and I like to be myself in my space. I’m beginning to like being me. I just want to carry on what I’m doing.
I’m enjoying my job, everything has fallen into place and I don’t want to plan anything. For years it was always “what do I want to do”, now I want to plod along and be happy, that’s where I am. I’ve hit something and it’s a lovely place to be.
The kids are really good too. They stay with him a few days a week and they like it there.
He’s changed now and I hate him for that. He’s now doing the things I wanted when we were together. I feel I’ve done him a favour, he’s a better person now. He has a new relationship and it’s going very well. I go round and have a cup of tea with her, she’s a nice person. His relationship is better because of the changes he’s made in himself.
I don’t regret anything at all – there’s not one regret. He’s in a better place. We get on better now than we did before. It’s odd, but its nice. I’m now as secure as I was before but wow, I can do this, I am doing this.
